Respectful empowerment

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The power of what other people think is extremely strong and although, we may know better but we go with what other people say or think because we feel that we want to stay part of that tribe or that group. Later on, we may regret it and regret is very strong and that is something that can consume you and make you feel upset.

I must admit when I follow what I feel is right in my heart, things tend to go well. When the opinion of others matters more and I adapt to that, I see things going down a slippery slope. What I mean by this is that I can clearly perceive that by following a specific opinion or idea of the other person will cause more harm. Sometimes, for whatever reason, we have to succumb to the situation and let things spiral into madness. In this case, how do we deal with it?

The best way is by not caring about the results. You have to take that step back and feel that the result has nothing to do with your own efforts. You did your best, you had your vision, you knew what was right but at that time, your environment wasn’t conducive to it, it was running the opposite way.

You see the worst of others, when their egos shine more than their heart. I have experienced this and even if you had little respect for that individual, you suddenly have zero. This is why as a leader or a mentor, empowering others, encouraging their vision and seeing what they want to achieve and trying to get them there is the sign of true power and respect grows automatically at a fast pace.

It’s really simple – follow your heart in everything you do. If for some reason, your environment (including people) is not ready for it, step away from the reactions of the result.

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Bunch of Thoughts

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Here are a few thoughts I want to just express as they enter my mind.

The body is a temple and we need to be mindful of what we eat and the environment that it has come from. Understanding this, we can look after ourselves better and lead a life of health and wellbeing.

Our live can either be a collection of moments that we have fully lived in or a fleeting shadow that is forgotten.

We can watch the behavior of others, observe and reflect and improve our own lives. We don’t always have to make mistakes and making mistakes is part of an awesome journey.

Sometimes when we think we know something with certainty, we find that the truth is something else. It is not bad to change your opinion, in fact it says more about how truthful and adaptable you are over being stubborn.

Love guides us more than we like to believe. Love provides an imprint on our soul that we can never forget.

Embrace mortality, discover your own humanity.

Sipping on some coffee

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It is one of those days where I get an extra hour of sleep as that is my body’s idea of a lie-in. I enjoy that extra one hour and I contemplate on what I am thankful for and what I plan for the day.

Planning for the day is a structure that I like but I know doesn’t truly exist. The day can bring beautiful opportunities and some crazy distractions at the same time. It is simply dependent on how one interpret the day ahead.

Whatever happens in the day, I find that it is important to keep a cool mind and embrace as much as you can. As always, be aware that nobody or no situation takes advantage of your good self.

Be humble enough to know that you can be wrong and smart enough to know that you can make things right.

I am going back to sipping on my coffee and contemplating.

Hope your day goes beautiful,

Think before you speak

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I am very guilty of doing this. I just speak whatever is on the mind and I tend to think afterwards that I should have waited, took a few seconds to reflect and then respond. Sometimes, we get angry when we hear something and we react straight away, maybe we should think for a couple of hours before we respond.

Sometimes what we say can truly hurt someone, we don’t know what they may deal with on a day to day basis. We just assume things but to be honest, we should always gather the facts, observe and then speak about something.

We will always get crazy remarks said to us and massive assumptions will be blurted out  but that doesn’t mean that we have to start getting into an expressive battle either. Depending on the situation, we take such action.

My observation from many years has been that silence says it all. The less you speak, the more of what you say has importance unless you always do say wise words, which automatically become important. Silence is very powerful in dealing with matters. We don’t have to show the person in front of us that we are affected by their words. A simple smile, look around you and then walk away. If someone has asked a question, then you will be the judge of whether it is worth answering.

People have a tendency to put others down or when they speak, they are just always moaning and constantly expressing their pain-story, to which majority is thought-based pain over actual body pain. Of these people, I may have to listen but again, you are silent, wish the person well and walk away and forget about it. Don’t reflect on something if it isn’t going to help you.

Silence is golden. It says so much without a single sound expressed. It is the most powerful tool you have at your advantage. Just ensure that no emotion remains inside of you for more than 24 hours. Try to express your feelings in a journal or meditate upon it so it dissolves away.

The power is within you, you choose what to do with it.

Memories and Machines

I have often wondered about the nature of Existence and how great it is. From stardust to planets to human beings and possibly a hybrid of human and technology. In fact, the way phones are glued to people right now, it can feel like you are talking to part human and part machine!

The crazy thing about the human condition is that we were already machines in a social construct. We are fed what to think by everyone around us, the media, our job, our beliefs and they all made us into machines that kept going and going until one day, we are about to die and we feel that we have never lived before and in these last moments, we are feeling life, fresh and new.

Except for the mystics, who have this immense grasp on living in the present moment, loving each moment and living life as if it is a new day that has never been experienced, despite living in routine day in and day out. They have something amazing and it is worth exploring maybe another time.

However, our attachments to social media or our phones has really led us into not feeling connected. It is so strange but that human touch is so much more sacred, so pure that if it is ignored, it will be detrimental to that person and even society at large. Although, I now live in the USA and my parents live in the UK, I do miss them but to know the true depth of that connection is only going to be discovered when I meet them. When I touch their feet (it is a spiritual custom to touch the feet of others as the divine is in them too) and take their blessings. When I give them a hug, that joy cannot translate itself in pictures, no matter if I do capture that perfect moment.

The other part of connection is the awareness of our memories and as I live away from my parents, my memories of my parents gives me connection, it makes me miss them and love them as if I was with them. In fact, my mind can even visualize that I am meeting them.

The point is how can I capture those memories if I am not present, if I am not observing my surroundings? Have you ever heard anyone remind you of a memory when you was on the phone? Like a deep memory. Not really. I can count on that I have probably missed so many memories because I was busy taking out my phone and trying to capture it. Then never looking at those pictures again. I can’t remember when I went into my photos app on my smartphone to go through the memories. Memories are meant to be imprinted in the mind not on phones.

When my brother died, I didn’t capture the moment he died on my cellphone. I lived through it with him. I wanted to experience the moment my brother would breathe his last. I allowed all that memory to be stored in my mind. Likewise, this is what I value today, that I was with him. That I held his hand, that I prayed that he would merge with the One.

We will all end up losing our loved ones and it is such a sad but inevitable part of life but if we have photos captured as well as memories then we are true winners. My point is that the generation(s) that just believes in taking pictures on their phone at any given moment, or we are looking down on our phones without living each moment, connecting with each action and thought we take, we will lose this great opportunity of being human.

Again, I often wonder about the nature of existence and I am so happy to be alive and that if my next breath were to be my last, I am happy.

 

Wants and Needs

We live in a world of wants pretending that they are needs. We always feel that our wants are extremely important and if not received in the near future, we will be at a disadvantage. Instead if we understand that whenever we want something, we should take a break. Have a look at what is needed as a necessity right now. Maybe not getting something and instead spending time with your loved ones has more value.

As we always find, that if you are confused in knowing the difference between wants and needs then there is one way to find out. Get what you ‘want’ and see if you get over it in a couple of weeks. I predict that you will be over it in a couple of days but let’s just say we are all pretty decent people and that it would take us a couple of weeks to move on to the next ‘want’. It is really simple.

Okay, it is understood that we got what we wanted and it didn’t give us a feeling of sustenance so now we will be able to be careful when we choose to act on getting that ‘want’ and trust me, if we don’t make mistakes, we will keep falling into the rabbit hole. Awareness is key!

Gratitude – 5 things I am grateful for!

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I was listening to Humble the Poet earlier today and he spoke about how important gratitude is. So I was thinking that today, I wanted to share 5 things I am grateful for. Here goes and in no particular order:

  1. Wisdom – the reason for this is because without wisdom, I wouldn’t be able to discern between right or wrong in most cases. I like to learn and try to implement and as I always say that knowledge with action equals wisdom. In the space of social media – we get so many people say very bland stuff but it comes across as inspirational when in fact, if we didn’t just scroll through or double tap or clicked ‘like’, we could have thought about the true meaning of that quote and seen if it comes from a place of deep understanding or just something that sounds good. Wisdom is hardly a soundbite, most of the time, it is longer than that and a soundbite may only be one part of an awesome but longer piece of writing.
  2. My wife, family & friends – without their support, their presence, I know my life would be incredibly fruitless. The wisdom I have gained, the love that I have been able to share is all because of their attention to me and their kind suggestions that sometimes were in the shape of a lecture. However, in the most trying of times, it is my wife, family and friends that have stood by me and shown me that there is light at the end of the tunnel. It is not just that, they hold my hand and that makes me feel safe. I can’t thank them enough! In fact, if my parents were not so strict on me having a spiritual journey then I probably would lack meaning in my life. On top of that, my wife has been a shining bright light when my whole world turned dark when my Satguru Baba Hardev Singh ji merged into the Formless.
  3. Books – anyone that knows me, knows how much I just love reading books. I will not disclose how much I have spent on books but it is enough for you to know that it is a lot. Reading books takes me to new places of thought, I gain new insights and I use those insights to make my life better. When we read, it is said to be incredibly good for our health. A business insider article discusses it and you should give it a read here. The point of reading for me is that it keeps me feeling young and a learner, which helps to keep my ego in check.
  4. Meditation – the benefits of meditation are aplenty and there is no end to studies about this. However, for me meditation has been a life-saver in many ways. I have been able to feel calm and content on more occasions due to meditation and in fact, gratitude comes a lot easier when we meditate or are mindful. Meditating and observing a mind that projects or perceives nothing is a remarkable experience, a mind that is quiet is a blessing for one’s being. Meditation not only enhances one’s spiritual journey but it empowers one to be strong and determined when the world attempts to get tough at us.
  5. My Satguru – without the presence of my Satguru, my life wouldn’t be the same, I may have never been as spiritual as I am if it wasn’t for my Satguru. My Satguru is the one reason why I meditate, read and honor wisdom so much. I have even improved my relationships by following the wisdom of my Satguru. You see, Satguru means truth and leads you from darkness to light. Although, I am not able to say that I am completely out of the darkness but whatever progress I have made to get to the Light is because my Satguru has always given guidance that enhances my life. You could even say that my Satguru enriches every reason why I am full of gratitude. You can read more about why I need my Satguru here.

Here are my 5 reasons why I am grateful. Please tell me at least one thing you are grateful for in the comments below.