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Today’s post is slightly inspired by something I have read on the internet. So please do excuse me for the rambling.

One message to so-called spiritual teachers, gurus, swamis or whatever you idiots like to call yourselves  – Stop exploiting the poor so you can become richer and start learning how to create humanity.

This is not to all spiritual masters at all. I follow a spiritual master myself and this is not at him. In fact, I am very proud that he does things for social welfare and most of all, atleast I know he isn’t demanding money from people to build temples.

What I find the most sickening thing about spirituality today is the building of temples. What the hell is all this about? Indian self-styled gurus and swamis are demanding billions and now, trillions of rupees to build temples in the name of God or Gods.

Here are my issues:

Any Guru claiming miracle powers or saying they have tools (except for meditation and the help of traditional herbal medicines) to eradicate suffering or your problems is using your insecurities and low confidence to attract you. They cannot solve your problems and it is more than likely that after you get rid of one problem then another 10 will arrive. However, no true and honest Guru or Swami will tell you that they can get rid of all your problems. They will tell you what works for them, from their experience but they don’t guarantee anything unless it is for enlightenment.

Any Guru or Swami who is willing to spend so much money on buying land or building temples are obviously deluded and have no intention to get rid of your suffering nor your poverty. In fact, these corrupt individuals and their partners are just criminals in making the poor more poor. First of all, I do not believe in a God but if he was true – what the hell is he going to do with the money that he gives you? If you believe for a moment that God gives you all – why do you have to against your own will to give it to some self-styled Guru or Swami to help aid God? And plus these self-styled idiots are far from being enlightened and have no intention to be. Please poor people of India and everywhere else in the world – what is God going to do with your money? No Guru or Swami who is honest will ever demand money from you. Not one of them will tell you that you must give your money otherwise your problems will never disappear and you will be cursed with more. If any Guru says that then take my advise – get the hell away from them. They want to create a hell on this earth by making you poor.Therefore, I shall say that the money that you give for building temples can be used to feed the poor, give better healthcare to the sick, offer free hospital treatments and give education to the children that cannot afford it. If you Swami and Guru’s really care about the world and are sent by the Almighty God then show that you actually do and do something worthwhile with your millions of rupees.

My heart always goes out to these poor people, who see a man dressed in orange or whatever they wear to give them an image of a saint and they fall under their spell. I have no issue with spiritual people taking money for the work they do but when they use it for silly things like temples (as if India needs any more) then I do have an issue. You can’t claim to care about the poor and then steal money from them so you can build a temple for a God that probably is thinking ‘Not another place I have to be present!’ These Guru’s need to be put behind bars for exploiting the poor.

In the UK, there are many Guru’s and Swami’s who come here every year to make a whole load of CASH that their pockets will be overfilling with notes. They come here and claim they can help you get rid of your money problems, they can help you get a job, they can get rid of every sickness on this planet and help your child(ren) with intelligence so they succeed in education. Here I will give you all a solution. If you got money problems either get a job, get another job or learn how to spend less but whatever you do never give it to a Guru who demands it. Yes, do your donations to charity but don’t feel obligated to. If you are struggling to find a job that you want then just keep applying. If you are ill then go to a hospital. If your child isn’t studying then don’t force the child to. Maybe he or she is not meant for the educational degrees but for something greater. Everyone has their own life so let them live.

The fact is most of the decent Gurus and Swamis (and there are a few) will never make you feel that you need to pay them money. Neither will they ask for a fee nor will they ask you to pay so much money for a prayer or puja or ritual. There may be a facility where you can offer a donation but that is at your own will. The people who make you feel obligated to pay them are definitely not men of God.

Hinduism is plagued with such Swamis who probably have never read any of the Vedic scriptures themselves but claim to speak from them. There are no secrets in these scriptures either because it is probably their own interpretation. Believe me on this that these people are just using your lack of knowledge and playing on it. They know you haven’t read any of the scriptures hence, they can say anything and you will believe it. Don’t fall for the trap. These so-called Swamis and Gurus disgust me even more when they claim science is applauding them. I have not heard one scientist who has praised these people nor have they recognised that their prayers or mantras or pujas or whatever they do as scientifically accurate. The sad thing is that a poor person sees this and feels that if science is applauding this then there must be some truth in it. I advise you don’t buy into the propaganda.

There are spiritual healers like Dr. Deepak Chopra, who does offer a fee for the programs that he has set up but people gain from this. They gain inner peace. You will never hear Dr Chopra go out and claim he can get rid of every disease known on the planet. He offers meditation techniques, he offers ayurvedic medicine and that all done with the Government’s approval. His main purpose is to get you to attain enlightenment through modern ways and you will never hear Dr Chopra claim that he is the only one that has the secrets. If you really are going to pay $500 on some idiot ritualistic prayer done in India, I say enrol on a course like the ones Deepak Chopra holds and gain something. This guy even offers so much to charity himself.

I think it is about time that the world wakes up to these conmen, who are exploiting the poor for such stupid things. It is time that the people who have little knowledge of holy scriptures should read them. These so-called spiritual people are creating more poverty in this world. It is about time that people find out the TRUTH themselves and not rely on individuals who are only interested in their wallets or bank balances.

Rahul N Singh

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Question: Rahul, you have always spoken against marriage but doesn’t that imply you are against love?

Answer: A lovely question by a friend on Twitter. I have opposed the idea of marriage for the past two years. In fact, I have even told my parents that I do not want to get married. It scares them as it should do. However, your question is implying that I have always spoken against marriage and that is not true at all. The truth is I am for marriage that are created out of love. If a couple feel that they are still in love just like the early days and they want to show their world their devotion then there is nothing wrong with that.

I am against marriages that are done against your own will. You can say that with arranged marriages your love can grow for your wife or husband and that is possible. Most marriages, especially the arranged ones are against one’s will. A marriage is an agreement but for some reason only the parents agree but not the poor children. The parents are not happy with each other but they force their children to marry. They don’t do this because they hate their child. They do this because they fail to understand the mess they are continuously creating. However, some arranged marriages have proven to be good decisions but who wants to take that one in a million chance.

I am definitely not against love. I love love. In fact, I am so much into love that every girl I date, I love her. In Arabic literature, there are 7 shades of love and one of them is attraction. You date someone that gives you an initial attraction and I am in love with that girl even if it is an attraction. An attraction is one stage and you can go deeper but both of you have to agree. What I am against is people marrying just so society has to accept their relationship. Love for you at one time was in the air and now it is on paper. You can see why I am against it. When it is on paper – it is the end. The problem is not with the paper that kills it, it is the people that kill it. They become reliant on the paper and they forget that their love is in the air and that the energy of love is still flowing around them. You don’t need anyone’s stamp of approval but if it makes you happy to marry then do it.

I am not against marriage and I am certainly not against love. I am in love with love and if my love accepts marriage then I accept it.

Rahul N Singh


It was recently Valentine’s Day as lovers and non-lovers know. One of my friends thought it would be nice for me to write a poem for him so he could give to his girlfriend. Of course, I had no problem with it until I was told the next day that his girlfriend had recognised the fact that her boyfriend cannot write something so beautiful.* In fact, she turned around and told him that whoever had written this must be a ‘hardcore romantic’! At this point, when my friend told me this – I burst out laughing and so did he. Why you must ask? Well, first of all I am a hardcore romantic but I hardly ever show it anymore. He believes that girls have taken the romance out of me and that now my journey is about finding the girl who can bring back the romance. So he is heavily interested in my Valentine’s Day date (my first ever) but I told him not to have expectations because I don’t and never will. But I must admit – it was the best date I had ever had though. But do all good things have to come to an end? Only this damn thing called time will tell! Oh and the girl! And not to forget ME!

I feel slightly bad writing this but I wish I had written a poem for my date because I still feel like I didn’t do enough to show who I am. In fact that is my biggest struggle and that is showing the other who I am. I know I can show so much but it remains 1-10% of who I am. Anyway, for the hardcore romantics like myself – who get drunk and write about love (not many know this but I do it a lot) this is for you.

By the way this is a new style for me of writing poetry. I don’t know where it has been inspired from:

 

Each breath holds a certain suffocation and in this suffocation there is satisfaction.

The soul is an endless well of affection yet this well has to meet an end.

The beauty of your eyes show me an infinite pool of passion.

My heart cannot cope with this moment but will die without living it.

The more I dwell on the sky. The more the sky dwells on me.

What does this stranger expect when contemplating on the sky with love?

There is no comparisons when you drown in both the sky and love – both are infinite.

The more moments I spend searching within your eyes – the more I lose my self.

Grant me this one wish my beloved and there is no other requisition .

Free this body of its suffocation by giving birth to a life of love with you.

 

Love,

Rahul N Singh

*By the way, they gave me permission to write this but I swore to anonymity.


The most important thing we must accept is that our life is our way of showing our individuality. There is nothing great about having an identity, if we cannot embrace who we truly are.

Many people argue that if someone is a criminal, is it acceptable for them to embrace who they are? Of course it is. Why should they hide away from it? At least they are honest to themselves about who they are and are under no delusion. No matter what you are, embrace it and eventually you will drop these silly labels that society thrusts upon you and you become your own individual.

An individual is special. An individual can never be divided and yet can lead a dual life with society. This is what a leader is. Someone beyond division but still capable of living with the collective whole. An individual can shape who they are and not worry about the consequences. The less labels you have attached to you, the less expectations and also you have a shoulder that does not have to carry much baggage.

Leading your life means that nobody has to share your flaws. Your flaws are your own that you need to accept and then change naturally. Anger or possessing a bad mood is totally unnecessary to share. When you become aware of this bad mood, it should drop. But we allow it to linger on in the background, while we tell other people how angry we are. In fact, when you are in a bad mood and you are angry, you are sharing it with someone and all you are doing is transferring that energy. That anger that is built up inside of them will be ignited by your transfer of energy. Keep your anger and moods to your self, if they are not worth sharing then don’t share them. Showing love is important but showing hatred only damages everything that surrounds you. Love is to be shared as it creates an amazing atmosphere, it is peaceful and people feel safe within it.

With your anger, you ignite other peoples’ insecurites, anger, paranoia and ignorance. Anger does not allow you to move on. Hence, forgiveness is needed for enlightenment, anger feeds on people that cannot forgive. Those that can forgive, anger will also arise but they keep it to themselves. Notice this. They keep it to themselves but they do not keep it in. They will go somewhere else, be alone and bring up all the frustrations. This may last a matter of a few seconds. That is the beauty of forgiveness. It gives everything bad, a short span of life. Everything good becomes everlasting.

Forgiveness opens the door to enlightenment. Enlightenment needs you to live in the present. If you live in the present moment, if you live in the moment of ‘NOW’ then enlightenment is yours. Forgiveness is natural. Acceptance is easy. Everything that happens to you, you accept it and move on. There is no need to be in a bad mood because there is nothing to be achieved from it. Forgiveness opens the door to leadership. A leader does not lead in the past, they lead in the present moment.

Lead but don’t be led.

Rahul N Singh


Question: If writers are introvert or not? If they are introvert then how do they put in words what they feel?

Answer: A very special question here because it deals with writers. Writers are definitely not introvert because they use creativity to express themselves. They may be introvert in the persona sense but not necessarily when it comes to pen and paper or fingers and a keyboard. The word introvert needs to be understood. It means that they are very selfish but not in a bad sense. They are selfish because they are not concerned about others, they don’t care about others. They are not worried about others. They are worried about themselves only. It is only an accident that they sell it to other people, so that they can SHARE their thoughts and feelings. Not so selfish then are they? Therefore, in the beginning, a writer is completely selfish but in the end becomes completely selfless.

Thoughts being translated into words is tough for any writer. I can only speak for my self here because I don’t take my self seriously in the terms that I like to have a joke and not be so serious. But why do I act serious at times? The times I am serious is when I am joking the most because now I am fooling around not just with words but with the psych of the other. Therefore, thoughts into words just comes from expression of one self – just like a painter with a painting. It just flows out. There is no process. You could say there is a process but it takes the soul out of the whole creativity.

Sometimes, I struggle to words certain things not because they are bad to write, politically incorrect or socially incorrect but because they cannot be expressed. I want to be out in the world and I would rather have people hear me speak than read my words. You have to see my emotions, my actions and maybe that is why I should do videocasting or podcasting. Maybe that is something of the future.

However, back to the amazing question, no writer is an introvert, they are all extroverts. They have embraced the inner self, the inner beauty and have an inner tranquility. Now, they are alive with experience, with examples and with expression.

Rahul N Singh


Yeah, sometimes I just feel like telling people to get out of my life but hey, there is no need to tell or say anything. Actually, there is nobody unnecessary in my life. I am happy that I do not have to do anything and just watch the world evolve and revolve around me!

Now, for me life is not something that should be taken too seriously. I mean just look at it, you will live for like 70-80 years and then what? You are gone. Will the earth still be here? Will society still be here? Will your children still be here? Yes! Life will still go on. Think about it, when have you thought that because your grandparents have gone, that now nothing can be done in life? In simple english, have you stopped living because of your grandparents death? No? If not grandparents then great-grandparents. Your life has still gone on. Your society still remains. Nothing really has changed. Now, what makes you think your life is going to be any different? So why be serious? Enjoy and just live in the moment. There is a buddhist concept of ‘do nothing’ and I think this is beautiful. You may be doing something but you are merely a witness to it all happening. So every experience looks real and new. That is the best way to avoid boredom too!

It is not good to shout out that the world is in ruins, even though it is. You got to show your life is exemplary and that will invite people to know you. People like those that have something different about them.

Which leads me to Valentine’s Day. I find this the ‘best’ day of the year. It has never meant much to me because I never had a date. I don’t expect it to change. But why don’t I like it? I’m a Casanova not a Romeo. Now, I am not a sex fiend that preys on any lustful women. However, Casanova was really loyal to his women, even though society and history may say otherwise. But Casanova had genuine love for women. He loved them because that is where he was born from. This is normal for guys. Women are absolutely beautiful and that is because they are the creators of life. They nurture life and every time you have sex with a woman, it is slowly nurturing you.  It makes life less serious and enjoyable. Casanova said one thing, which I really do praise ‘Marriage is the tomb of love.’ Love ends with marriage and even relationships nowadays. I call today’s era the ‘Twilight-love Era’ and this is because stupid boys and girls claim they fall in love yet they know nothing of love. They simply mistake their attraction to be ‘love’ and now I feel bad whenever I say I ‘love’ a girl. It feels fake to me. I have complete passion for her, however, my love is a Casanova’s love. Not a ‘Twilight love’.

Why don’t I like Romeo? It is not that I don’t like him but I think he is the reason for the ‘Twilight Era’ because he foolishly falls in love with this girl and claims she is still the only one. I find that hard to believe and I wonder all the time, if he hadn’t died then he would have become another Casanova.

Any girl that I have asked out, had sex with or even asked for a date, I know inside I have loved them the way Casanova loved. I loved them for being women and nothing more. It is pure. I have no reasons but to praise their feminine interior and exterior. I could say it edges towards a spiritual bondage of love. So leading to this Valentine’s Day, it means nothing to me because it is purely commercial so I take it as a joke. So I reply to it with a joke. I have asked an ex out for Valentine’s Day before and I did it rather spontaneously and she hated me for it. She couldn’t understand why I did it and even I didn’t know why because it was spontaneous. Plus, I forgot she was my ex, I should hold more weight to my past than I do. Oh well…

Is there a girl I would be a Casanova for this Valentine’s Day, I feel I want to but I don’t feel a girl is ready. I want to bring the love back into this day and take out its commercial bullshit. Question is why do I remain so closed towards a girl I really want compared to a girl that I probably know will only be there for the sex? Why do I feel pulled towards the second option – it is simply because the girl I really want, well how do you know for sure she really wants you? Even I have my flaws and I am leaving them open to you to judge. I know the remedy, in fact I do stupid things to get the girl I want. I will find out what she likes and say if its like a restaurant, I will visit that restaurant and know about the places nearby it. Why do such a silly act? Well, atleast I am prepared.

I don’t know if I have made sense but just enjoy life and live it to the max with a spontaneous attitude.

Rahul N Singh


Rohan, a 27 year old guy, who is married with two kids and his wife is beautiful. Rohan has quite a few problems that he wishes he could solve. However, things have hit rock bottom. He has lost his job, lost his savings on a trip to Las Vegas last year and now he is scared about how to bring the next dinner on the table. He picks up the courage and goes to see his best friend, Naina. He tells her the situation and she gives him £500.

After a couple of months, Naina bumps into Rohan, who is waiting for her outside her office. He apologises for ignoring her and he is really upset about his behaviour. He explains to Naina how he spent the money on drugs, prostitutes, alcohol and gambling. He tells her that he is scared about the future. Naina patiently listens and asks Rohan what he wants now. Rohan asks her for more money. Naina carefully listens and considers it. After all, it is her money that she has lost to this man.

She replies: ‘I can give you the money but this time I will buy the groceries and anything you need.’

Now what is the message behind this story. Rohan has betrayed Naina’s trust, he has hurt her but she doesn’t look hurt, she just listens to him. Her forgiveness is unique. She still gives him the money again and is that her ignorance or stupidity? However, she has a good heart. She forgives him in the true sense. She feels no pain, she feels no hurt but she remembers that he has betrayed her before. Therefore, she thinks of a solution where she can give him the money but now gets the items herself. You could say she was a push-over but she didn’t have to help him. Even if she didn’t help him, she still maintained her friendship. If he made a mistake and she lets go of the friendship, then that is another mistake. But this time, the mistake is her fault.

This is what forgiveness is: You remember the facts but you forget the emotions and psychological aspect of what was done to you. This way, you can keep moving forward in life.

Maintaining grudges keeps the door of enlightenment closed. If you want to open the doors of enlightenment, the doors to the Formless then you need to know how to forgive. If you can’t forgive then going to your place of worship is useless, praying or meditating is useless, or doing charitable acts are useless. Learn the art of forgiveness. Remember what they did wrong but don’t remember how it made you feel. That is forgiveness.

Rahul N Singh



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