Question: Yesterday, you talked about why people should have children but why do you personally want children? Don’t you think the world is suffering enough with the growing number of orphans and also burdened with over-population?
Answer: The world is burdened but not me. I am not the world and that leaves me absolutely free. Now, saying that I have answered the majority of your question. The growing number of orphans are simply the fault of those that oppose contraception. Those that oppose contraception are the very people against abortion but they don’t see the common sense that they are causing the abortion. They condemn contraception and give birth to abortion. I am neither pro-abortion nor against abortion. I am not going to judge anybody for giving birth or not giving birth. Each to their own. Who am I to interfere? Everyone is responsible for their own actions. The world has a problem with the number of orphans and I hope that someday I can build an orphanage for those children.
Not only that, your first question is a massive link to the orphans. I personally want children because there is an inner calling within me to eventually become a father. Now, one must understand that when I say father that it is not restricted to just children of my own blood. I am not interested in giving out my genes or my inheritance. Remember, I do not even want to get married and if marriage happens it happens. I want to father a child who is an orphan as it is. I am looking at adopting a daughter because I have never had a sister and I think the lack of consistent females in my life, there is a longing to have a daughter. I wish I could explain why because I could explain why if it was a desire to have a child but it isn’t. I simply know it is what is needed for me. Even if I have my own children, of my own blood then of course I am open to that.
However, the issue should never be why we want children but how we want to bring our children. This is where the main problem is. I want my children to be brought up with complete freedom. They do not need to answer me or give me any reasoning for their acts. It is a simple experiment that I want to try. I don’t want to force my children into education, into religion, into society, into culture, into family or anything that could restrict their freedom. All they need to do is do as they wish. The question I am always asked that ‘What would you do if your daughter has sex at 14?’ It is a question that I get all the time as if it is meant to catch me out. My reply is always a simple “If my daughter has had sex then why should I condemn her? She has already done the act and I am going to punish her? How is she going to trust me? How is she going to see me as a friend? How can she be open as a daughter to me? She will always be in fear and what is the point? If your upbringing of the child is going to be about fear then don’t have children at all. Don’t be a Hitler, a Stalin or any other type of dictator with your children. My daughter has done the act and all I am going to comment on is the act but I will not condemn, judge or speak ill of my daughter. Even with the act, it is about precautions and guidance. If I tell her not to do something then she will definitely do it so what is the point? I can create barriers around things to try and stop her but I will never stop her directly. If my children want to know something then I should be able to answer it straight away for them. If they have asked a question then that means they are mature enough to take in the answer. I cannot stop my children from anything and if I do then they can stop calling me dad.”
The issue is the upbringing and I am there for the orphans too. I will do my best to be there for them and do as much as I can for them. My love is always with them and my strength and strong will is spread to them too. My reasons for having my own children is simple enough that I just want to be a father. I want to experiment and see that if I give my children absolute freedom that they can be the best human beings that the world desperately needs. I have seen the way society is today and I can say that children fighting for freedom is only resulting in conflict. There is no need for the conflict because parents can give freedom. Just think of the time you were children. Maybe my experiment will be wrong and I don’t like to say experiment but it is the closest word I can use. If anyone is going to suffer with the consequences will be mine. I don’t think my family share my sentiments with children. I want them free from religion and spirituality for as long as I can. Only if they ask about it then I should answer their questions. My family are a practicing hindu family and I am not a practicing hindu and neither do I want to call myself a hindu. I am a Nirankari and even then I don’t want my children to be brought up as a Nirankari. I want them to find their own truth and if we share the same paths then brilliant. If not then it is still brilliant. Hence, I think I will find it hard to get married because will a woman accept this in practice? Therefore, my wish is to have children first and then consider marriage. We have Freedom is the answer and I want them to enjoy freedom as much as possible.
Love and blessings,
Rahul N Singh
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