The power of what other people think is extremely strong and although, we may know better but we go with what other people say or think because we feel that we want to stay part of that tribe or that group. Later on, we may regret it and regret is very strong and that is something that can consume you and make you feel upset.
I must admit when I follow what I feel is right in my heart, things tend to go well. When the opinion of others matters more and I adapt to that, I see things going down a slippery slope. What I mean by this is that I can clearly perceive that by following a specific opinion or idea of the other person will cause more harm. Sometimes, for whatever reason, we have to succumb to the situation and let things spiral into madness. In this case, how do we deal with it?
The best way is by not caring about the results. You have to take that step back and feel that the result has nothing to do with your own efforts. You did your best, you had your vision, you knew what was right but at that time, your environment wasn’t conducive to it, it was running the opposite way.
You see the worst of others, when their egos shine more than their heart. I have experienced this and even if you had little respect for that individual, you suddenly have zero. This is why as a leader or a mentor, empowering others, encouraging their vision and seeing what they want to achieve and trying to get them there is the sign of true power and respect grows automatically at a fast pace.
It’s really simple – follow your heart in everything you do. If for some reason, your environment (including people) is not ready for it, step away from the reactions of the result.