Social Media – Controlling the Influence

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It has been one month since I have deleted the social media apps off my iPhone. This is after reading a book called Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport and it offered some amazing insights on how social media has really taken over our lives. After reading it, I decided to do a 30 day detox off from social media mainly Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat. I must admit that I found a few things that are both obvious but exciting at the same time.

  1. I found that I had a lot more time on my hands. Those endless, cyclical movements of scrolling up and down, left and right consumed quite a lot of my time. At least 60% of it according to my Screen Time function on my iPhone.
  2. I had more meaningful conversations with people because I was kind of forced to speak on the phone to people. Every since social media, I must admit that the willingness to speak on the phone had waned over the years for me. Now, it has revived itself.
  3. I have had more time to meditate, contemplate and really observe my thoughts. This meant that I was really able to absorb into an interesting thought or I was able to reach a thought-free mind for longer periods than before. I was able to observe sounds and sights with a little bit more awe and wonder than usual.
  4. I had more time to read and gain real knowledge and insight. This helped me to learn new things and broaden my mind in understanding and embracing new concepts.
  5. I was able to understand my own feelings and truly get to know them. I know this sounds a little strange but the noise of social media can really drown out whatever you are feeling and what can happen is those feelings become trapped and they grow with more intensity. This only causes us to feel more upset. However, this social media detox, I was able to deal with my feelings right there and then.

Overall, I don’t know if I will ever download the apps again. I tried for the first time today and I deleted the apps off my iPhone again. Maybe I will use social media on my computer rather than my iPhone like the good old days. 

Anyway, maybe give yourself a 7 day social media detox. Honestly, it may be worth it.

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Temptation – A Positive Approach

temptation_to_no_avail_be46Temptation is annoying. Damn annoying and the annoying thing about this is the fact that you are in control of your temptations. What is it that triggers the temptation? What then fuels this temptation? Obviously, thought always gives energy to temptation or to anything that we wish to remove ourselves from.

Being on a vegan diet is difficult as it is. I recently went into Waitrose (I am not middle class) and they do quite a bit for us vegan peeps. They had these ginger – chocolately biscuit bites and they are pretty yum. However, I have put them in the freezer and I want one. I could give in to temptation as I salivate about them now or prove determination over temptation. Today, I wanted to avoid sweet things and wanted a healthy day. Trust me, when chocolate is scarce already then all you can think about is chocolate.

Temptation happens in all parts of life. The temptation to look at an attractive woman or come across an amazing and beautiful woman on instagram or facebook, especially the ones you know and you have that desire to pursue that temptation and then reality sticks its nose in it and it is all over. You start thinking of reasons why it cannot and should not work. You think of the last time she rejected you and stopped talking to you and mentioning how hot she looks may literally be the last nail in the coffin to any possibility of ‘something’ later. What is this ‘something’ beats me.

When I am meditating, I feel like putting my attention and awareness on the occasional itch on my arm. The itch that never occurs otherwise but suddenly finds it amusing to happen now. You can’t take the intensity of the meditation and 5 seconds feels like 5 hours. How can one be still? The temptation to move gets stronger and stronger. However, your determination wins, your willpower is victorious because no way will you let anything stop you from your goal.

The times when someone ignores you and you just want to tell them that it isn’t cool. They have posted on Facebook, Instagram or whatever. Nowadays, snapchat easily shows someone opening your post thing and they don’t reply to it. Sad times! However, why should people reply? That is attention seeking. My existence isn’t worth the response of every single person. It is mad and I don’t respond to everyone’s and that is because I think my life is the best! Madness I tell you!

Temptation is crazy and yet, it is what makes you grow. Be happy that you are tempted because it shows that you can make your willpower stronger and stronger. It is a gym session for your willpower. Temptation can be made positive if you want it to. And if temptation wins then so what. Sometimes, eating that ginger biscuit chocolate bite thing may make you happy. Telling that one woman that you have secretly been attracted to her can be the beginning of a blossoming relationship. Scratching that itch may help you get back to meditation and moving may make your bottom feel less numb! Also, telling those people not to ignore you may create a conversation that will eventually change your life. I know it does sound incredibly ideal but let’s be real, whatever was once ideal has become a reality. I remember being a kid and thinking about cameras on mobile phones being revolutionary! So things can be done.

Whatever it is that tempts you right now and you see a spark of positivity in it then go for it. If it doesn’t work out then fair enough, their loss aswell as yours!

Love and blessings,
Rahul