Management and Balance

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We go to work and sometimes we want to do our very best but we have pressing deadlines, we have projects to start, projects to keep tracking, projects that are about to finish and all we want is to have a bit of peace time to do the quality work that is necessary.

Sometimes, we take on so much work that the quality decreases and as we all now, deadlines and added work never mix well together. However, what really defines a place is how the management deal with everything that is going on.

To me, the role of a manager is to lead by example, whether in crisis or at peace time. One, they are always courteous and respectful. Two, they look to resolve something and make minimal comments about the matter. They don’t give their opinion, they look for solutions. Three, they look to encourage instead of discourage. Four, they put trust at the forefront of the conversation.

With these 4 aspects, if the manager follows that, the employee works super hard and does their best work as long as they are able to complete the tasks under the weekly work hours. It is all about understanding and when we come from that place, we are mindful of the employee and their journey. We will consider what is going on in their lives, what their perceptions are of their managers, how are they feeling about the tasks they are doing and most of all, that work is not adding stress to their lives but making their lives easier.

For me, the sign of how well a manager is doing is if their employee looks forward to going to work every morning. If they don’t, then something is up. The manager may not be the issue but upper management. What really needs to happen is a true dialogue.

Many times, our egos like to take control of a situation and it runs on a rampage and tries to destroy everything that is perceptually wrong but only if we dug a little deeper, tried to be reasonable and had a balanced mind, managers would see the larger picture.

We have to work hard when we go to work for sure, but never overwork that you reach the point of stressing out. It is not worth it. Keep your cool and keep your peace.

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Stressful times – what do I do?

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Today, my day was attempting to be stressful and there was huge pressure from work and I could just feel this cloud gover over me, ready to collapse at any time. Even though, the perception would be that the cloud is light, not this one. The cloud of stress is heavy.

In these times, I try to remain mindful, observe my surroundings and try and be a little bit positive. Even when it is tough to do so, I try not to stop smiling. However, that doesnt mean I just cope. In certain circumstances, when I have felt misused or taken advantage of, I end up looking for new opportunities.

The one thing that I do when looking for new opportunities is to make sure that I remain positive and optimistic. It is important that a sense of peace and happiness should be done in the search for new opportunities. The energy that we give out to our environment, is the energy that is most likely to continue. So if it is negative, negative will be the environment, positive and positive will be the environment.

I will not lie that today I felt like I was being crushed, overwhelmed and somehow thrown under the bus but I only allow that to happen if I accept that it is happening in my consciousness. Instead I turned those feelings to this is a challenge and opportunity to show my resilience and initiative.

I hope your day went well and share with me, how you have dealt with such situations.

Work stress – Don’t bring it home!

I remember speaking to a manager
She didn’t approve of a management style of
another manager who managed me.
She told me a simple thing
And it should apply to everyone
‘Do not become a mood hoover!’

It got me thinking alot
We all have bad days at work
Sometimes it becomes overwhelming
It can get the better of us
But why let it get the better of us?
We are incharge of our own lives
Why should our state of mind
Be at the will of others?

Yes, if you must show emotion at work
Do that and don’t hold back.
If you can look at the situation objectively
Then right course of action is taken.
If no answer is coming to you
Then simply do not react,
Otherwise something that is a molehill
Will undoubtedly take shape of a mountain.

The worse thing is when you come home
Or you go to see your friends
And you act all moody and down.
We all have our troubles and problems
Nobody is exempt from experiencing this.
Begin to understand the nature of your feelings,
Understand how your energy passes into a room.
A wise man once told me personally that
Are you that person who enters a room
And people stand up to leave? Or
Are you that person who enters a room
And the room lights up with joy?
If you cannot find happiness in yourself
If you cannot find joy in yourself
You will NEVER find it in another.
That person will become a reflection
Of what your state of being truly is.

When you come back from work
Meet others with a grand smile.
Give them positive energy
Because when their times are tough
You may be the only hope they have
The only thought they will possess
When they feel overwhelmed.

Post 43 – 5 steps to remove stress

Stress is the most common problem today. Whether it is exams are round the corner, an important project file needs to be handed in at work. Family relationships are getting more tense, the wife wants another holiday, the kids want to start dating and are obviously going through adolescence. He probably also has a mistress to look after too, after all having sex with someone other than your wife or girlfriend doesn’t come cheap. Today, can be said the same for women. Women have progressed and for all the right reasons, they have grown and grown. They have to face decisions on whether to concentrate on their career or have a baby.  They may also be having another love affair. The woman may also have the burden of not knowing who the real father is. The husband may feel he may not be the father. The teenagers and young adults have to go through changes in the body, the realisation of their hormones, and also have to face exams and coursework worries. On top of that, their parents are over-protective or do not even give a damn about them. They could have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, who is immature and inconsiderate. Even if they are in the so-called best relationships, they shout ‘love’ as if they understand it. Inside they know they don’t understand it and this leads to their subconscious remaining confused about love. Those kids know that their subconscious could rip open any time. University graduates have to worry about getting a job, a mortgage and a possible family life despite a recession and an incompetent government. You don’t know what to do except keep it all in. You allow the stress to gather inside – thus leaving your mental stability on the rocks.

Most stress is our emotions. Our emotions are attached to everything that we do. Inside, there is some emotion behind the stress that we feel. At the end, we do not want to feel pain, we do not want to face disappoint. Young, or old, you just want to live life freely, so how to do it as easy as ABC is the main questions.

Here are the steps:

1. Sit down on your own – This is an important step to take. Now, sit anywhere – in your office, your bedroom, your closet or even your bathroom. Sit down on a chair, on the floor, whatever you feel like doing. You can stand up if you want, you can walk of you want. Just be free in the comfort of your own being and close your eyes. Just sit there in silence, allow thoughts, visions and your imagination to roam free. Just relax. Breathe slowly, become aware of each breath. Do this up to 3 minutes.

2. Remember everything that causes stress – Think of all the events, the moments that have caused you stress. Your heart may race a little bit faster than usual but become aware of everything. Think of everything. Let it boil up. Feel all your emotions, all that stress rise up – from the centre of your being to the mind. Spend up to 6 minutes on it.

3. Scream and laugh – Now you must scream out all your stress, everything that you have kept in, imagine all the stresses releasing out of your mind, out of your body. If you can’t scream for obvious reasons, then imitate the screams, allow your body to throw out the stress. Don’t restrict your body to move at this point. Even if you are screaming inside, witness and watch the stress as you throw it out. Do this up to 3 minutes or longer depending on how much stress you have.

Then start laughing or feel the laughter within you. Just laugh, you don’t need a reason. If you do then; think of the good times, think of jokes but you must laugh. Laughter is infectious, so once you start you should keep laughing. Best thing to laugh at is the stress that you have ‘vomited’ out. Look at the silliness of it. But your main happiness should be that you have no more stress within you. Be aware of the laughter, feel it from within. This should last up to 3 minutes.

4. Listen to music – For upto 7 minutes, relax with some music. Keep your body free and don’t be worried about dancing. Even if you listen to the music let it be something classical, that gives you goosebumps. Otherwise it can be modern and it can have lyrics. Just feel good. Whatever makes you want to celebrate. Whatever makes you feel very good about life, let the music enter your mind. It is best if doesn’t have lyrics as it will do justice to the next step. I have a file on rapidshare for some music that I feel will be better or any new age music. The link to the music file is: http://rapidshare.com/files/442407518/stress_music_1.rar

5. Sit in silence – Now, you must sit in silence for 5 minutes with your eyes closed. Try and think of nothing. Don’t remember what you did in the past  minutes. If it makes it easier for you then concentrate on your breathing, become one with the breathes that you take. Otherwise, keep your mind blank and in silence. If you want to imagine anything, then imagine only darkness, endless darkness. Allow yourself to become friendly with the darkness. Feel it’s energy wrap around you, this soundless energy. Try and feel that buzz everywhere, around you, touching your body. Let yourself free.

Overall it can be done in 21 minutes. It is literally 1.5% of your whole day, it will not cost you much time at all. You are given freedom but you must follow the steps in the way presented. This has worked for me and it can work with you.  You can do this as many times as you want in a day. It can be less or it can be more than the 21 minutes, the main objective is that you must de-stress yourself. If you follow this regularly then you will eventually be detached from stress, you may get stressed but you will know how to remove it. Try it and tell me if it works.

Stay blessed

Rahul N Singh