I am very guilty of doing this. I just speak whatever is on the mind and I tend to think afterwards that I should have waited, took a few seconds to reflect and then respond. Sometimes, we get angry when we hear something and we react straight away, maybe we should think for a couple of hours before we respond.
Sometimes what we say can truly hurt someone, we don’t know what they may deal with on a day to day basis. We just assume things but to be honest, we should always gather the facts, observe and then speak about something.
We will always get crazy remarks said to us and massive assumptions will be blurted out but that doesn’t mean that we have to start getting into an expressive battle either. Depending on the situation, we take such action.
My observation from many years has been that silence says it all. The less you speak, the more of what you say has importance unless you always do say wise words, which automatically become important. Silence is very powerful in dealing with matters. We don’t have to show the person in front of us that we are affected by their words. A simple smile, look around you and then walk away. If someone has asked a question, then you will be the judge of whether it is worth answering.
People have a tendency to put others down or when they speak, they are just always moaning and constantly expressing their pain-story, to which majority is thought-based pain over actual body pain. Of these people, I may have to listen but again, you are silent, wish the person well and walk away and forget about it. Don’t reflect on something if it isn’t going to help you.
Silence is golden. It says so much without a single sound expressed. It is the most powerful tool you have at your advantage. Just ensure that no emotion remains inside of you for more than 24 hours. Try to express your feelings in a journal or meditate upon it so it dissolves away.
The power is within you, you choose what to do with it.
You must have met someone who you find is an absolute fool. They are those people that are totally living in a closed world. They don’t think beyond their world. Whatever is in their world, they believe that everyone should follow that. They do not understand what reality may even hold. They are simply those people who never seem to understand anything other than their own wants and needs. If they get it, they love you. If you challenge that, they don’t like you. They simply never care about hurting anyone in the process. They are so absorbed in their ego that reality has gone far ahead and they are still living in some previous glory in a fantasy past that they have probably recreated and reedited in their own mind.
I come across and you must come across fools on a weekly basis at the very least. It is simply a challenge on how to respond to them and how to be around them. You know that they may say something so ridiculous that you want to run away from them as soon as possible.
Most likely, the person that you want to avoid or you walk the other way from is probably a fool. Hence, we as social beings take radical steps to walk away from such people. Even though we have to try and work with them in some capacity, we can always limit our interaction time. We all have a Pandora’s box of excuses to run away from those questions.
I always advise to limit your time in being in the space of such fools. Foolishness is easily transferred. Watch your own thoughts and actions, be so acutely aware that everything you do or think is in the accordance of your being/heart and not your mind. Keep this advise especially if the fool wants to speak to you and you know it is polite and courteous to do so and we must adhere to this social code, even though we want to run a mile away.
Our behavior and our way of being will both attract and detract fools and we never know what it may be, that is the great byproduct of being wise. The wiser you are, the more the fool tries to disturb you. Let the fool try, and never try to please them or respect them more than they deserve. Imagine what the fool will think when they know a wise person likes them! It’s ego delight!
Anyway enough about fools and their foolery! Remember, the main thing and that is within you there is a formless space where neither the wise nor the fool is, stay there.